How does one get good in bed? Unfortunately a large portion of the population learns from porn. I won’t go into the good and bad of porn, and yes there is good, well done, porn that is made where no one is forced, and it’s not dark and ugly. What I will say, is that it’s an entertainment industry. It is not an educational industry. People are acting and therefore not showing what real sex is actually like. And they are definitely not educating people on things like consent, safety, and the many many ways one can experience sexual pleasure that does not include going for climax.

Fortunately, there are many companies, websites, and YouTube channels that are trying to educate people about real, natural sex. See my post on  What Is Normal Sex. Companies and websites like, FCK YES which is about consent, OMGYes, One TasteMake Love Not Porn (MLNP), and Virtual Sexology, There are also quite a variety of sex educational YouTube Channels such as  Sexplanations, Hanna Witton, and Laci Green.

And of course there are many sex coaches like myself and my mentor, Jaiya. Jaiya, is committed to creating a sex positive world and has trained a number of coaches in her Erotic Blueprints™. If you want to know more about the Erotic Blueprints™, which is sort of like the 5 Love Languages, only the 5 Sex Languages, check out my offerings and my page on the topic.

There are many coaches teaching all sorts of topics on the subject of sex. Some teach from a more energy and presence based perspective. Some teach from a sensual based perspective. Some teach from a kinky based perspective. You can find people to teach you how to ‘see God’ through sex, how to tie ropes, how to be a dominate or submissive, how to use all your senses during sex to heighten the sensual experience, how to do genital and erotic massage. You name it. If you have a desire, you can find someone to teach you.

Remember though. It’s all about pleasure in the end, for everyone involved.

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