The more we are centered and aware of our own greatness,
the less impact the world has on us.

I am the child of a bi-polar parent, which means that my early life was filled with chaos, uncertainty, and sometimes violence. Children of bi-polar parents grow up with trust issues, attachment issues, a tendency towards anxiety, depression, and sometimes PTSD. They tend to be hyper sensitive and hyper aware of those around them as they had to figure out what the mood of their bi-polar parent was and adapt to it. They also tend to suppress and deeply bury their emotions. Children of bi-polar parents also often have unusual stress responses so the stress hormones work differently in their bodies which can increase their susceptibility to illness. All of these textbook manifestations of being a child of bi-polar parents were my reality, and I was totally unaware of it.

As an adult, I had all the things in life that I had wanted: family, marriage, health, a beautiful home, money–everything. I managed to create a life that was wonderful on the outside, but yet I still was very unhappy. I have an adventurous and curious nature, and a drive to keep challenging myself, so I dove in to try to figure this out. Since there was nothing left on the outside to “work” on, I turned my attention inward and began exploring. In the exploration, I realized that underneath the unhappiness, there was a lot of stored and hidden trauma. I spent many years addressing and unraveling the trauma that was held in my body, my nervous system, and my internal belief systems.

One of the biggest issues I had was not feeling safe in the world and in my body. I am highly sensitive and easily overwhelmed by the outside world. Having to deal with a chaotic environment and having to attune to parents’ moods became so ingrained that it was an unconscious habit. This is a common experience for children of bi-polar parents.

When I learned to feel safe in my body and began to trust myself, it opened the doors to the deeper hidden traumas that could then be healed. I now feel less anxious, my low-level depression has lifted, and I am more aware of my attunement towards others. Healing didn’t mean that these tendencies went away. It meant that I’m more conscious of them and I have more choice. And it meant that many of these turned into my gifts within the wound. For instance, my attunement with others is something I use in healing sessions with my clients, as it assists me in understanding exactly where someone is in that moment.

That is the essence of the work I do in the world. I help people feel safe enough in their bodies through mindfulness and loving presence that they can uncover deeply buried experiences and nervous system responses/reactions so that they can be seen and healed.

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My Details - For those who are interested in that sort of thing

  • I have a bachelor’s degree in Math and Chemistry with a minor in Computer Science, so I come from an analytical/scientific background to this more esoteric area of expertise.
  • I have a certificate in Energy Healing from the Lionheart Institute. A 2 1/2 year intensive program based on the Hands of Light techniques. It was a whole system approach to energy healing.
  • I studied Shamanic Practices intensively for 3 1/2 years with my mentors and friends Hank Wesselman and Jill Kuykendall at Shared Wisdom.
  • I am a graduate of the Hakomi Institute. Hakomi is a mindfulness based body-centered client-centered approach to healing old wounds and patterns that are no longer serving.
  • I’ve been participating in The School of Womanly Arts for many years and I highly recommend Regena Thomashauer’s latest book Pussy: A Reclamation.
  • I studied The Art of Feminine Presence with Rachel Jayne Groover.
  • I studied Qoya, a beautiful movement practice about remembering our divine being with Rochelle Schieck.
  • I am certified in Plant Based Cooking from Rouxbe. I have been gluten free for over 20 years which began my fascination and explorations with nutrition.
  • I am a certified Erotic Blueprint Coach™. The Erotic Blueprints™ were created by Jaiya and are similar to the 5 love languages only the 5 languages of turn on.
  • I have led families, kids and adults on multi-day outdoor adventures for over 20 years teaching general outdoor skills, orienteering, camping, canoeing, kayaking, hiking and backpacking.
  • I have studied photography at the Rocky Mountain School of Photography.
  • I live on the Big Island of Hawaii where I am co-owner of a farm where we grow macadamia nuts, coffee, dragon fruit, many types of citrus, bananas, papaya, and cacao. We also host guests occasionally.
  • I am a mom, a partner, an artist, a gardener, a farmer, an animal lover, a lover of peace and a world traveler.
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